One of my friends from my DBT group told me something which I’ve gone totally Emotion Mind over. She told me that my therapist, who is also her therapist, told her to reach out by text twice a day to stay connected to her because she was being avoidant.
But my therapists (of course) did not say this to me and I am so angry, jealous and hurt over it!
All I have in my head is “SHE LOVES HER MORE THAN SHE LOVES ME” and I want to act on my emotions so bad.
But I can’t because it’s so weird and dramatic and ridiculous. And texting her to explain myself is not going to solve this either – if anything it’ll make it worse.
Rationalising isn’t working at all. Even though I know that I’m not avoidant in the same way as my friend is, Emotion Mind doesn’t care right now.
“SHE CLEARLY LOVES HER MORE THAN ME. SHE LOVES HER MORE THAN ME. SHE LOVES HER MORE. HER HER HER. HER.”
And around and around and around.
What do I dooooooo?