Therapy And Jealousy

One of my friends from my DBT group told me something which I’ve gone totally Emotion Mind over. She told me that my therapist, who is also her therapist, told her to reach out by text twice a day to stay connected to her because she was being avoidant.

But my therapists (of course) did not say this to me and I am so angry, jealous and hurt over it!

All I have in my head is “SHE LOVES HER MORE THAN SHE LOVES ME” and I want to act on my emotions so bad.

But I can’t because it’s so weird and dramatic and ridiculous. And texting her to explain myself is not going to solve this either – if anything it’ll make it worse.

Rationalising isn’t working at all. Even though I know that I’m not avoidant in the same way as my friend is, Emotion Mind doesn’t care right now.

“SHE CLEARLY LOVES HER MORE THAN ME. SHE LOVES HER MORE THAN ME. SHE LOVES HER MORE. HER HER HER. HER.”

And around and around and around.

What do I dooooooo?

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8 thoughts on “Therapy And Jealousy

  1. Ugh! I completely understand the attachment “stuff” that happens with our thereapists. Just when I think I have it conquered it pokes its head out. For me, I would try to remember the connection between younand your therapist. Your therapist wont forget about you and isnt going anywhere. The attachment is strong. In your t’s mind maybe you are doing ok right now. Try to trust the attachment. Dont know if this helped or not. Sending caring ((hugs))

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    • But I do need constant check ins!! Just because I’m not avoiding her doesn’t mean I don’t struggle in other ways which I need support with, ya know?
      Like, my friend and I are doing pretty similarly, so it’s not like one of us needs more support than the other.
      So emotional today, sorry.

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